The Right Thing to Do
You’ll want to know what she is thinking and feeling...
The following was sent to us On December 26 by Steven Braatz, M.D., fellow, American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and Captain, Medical Corps, USN, Retired.
Dr. Braatz practices in Susanville, Calif. He has agreed to serve on the speakers bureau of Californians for Parental Rights. Read his Dec. 5 piece here.
There are certain moments in a child’s life that neither the child nor the parent will ever forget. I remember spending an evening in the Emergency Department with my three-year-old daughter. She had fallen and sustained a laceration right at the upper margin of her left eyebrow. It needed sutures. As the E.R. doctor carefully injected the laceration with lidocaine and began to place tiny little sutures in her pretty little forehead, I held her head in my hands and she stared intently into my eyes. Her lips were pursed as she gazed at me, and she was trying to hold back tears, trying to be her bravest. She seemed to be drawing strength from me, trusting me, as I gently told her, “It’ll be okay.” I could see in her eyes and her frightened but determined expression an unspoken conviction, “I’m going to make you proud of me, Daddy!”
An injury is a time of crisis for a child, and for a parent too. Likewise, going to the doctor’s office for vaccinations, overcoming the fear of riding a bicycle, or showing up for the first day of school, all are hard and memorable experiences. Relationships can become strained as your children grow into the teen years, but this is a time when they need parental guidance more than ever, and especially when they make a mistake.
A few months ago I was looking at the Physicians for Reproductive Health website, and I saw this statement from a doctor who performs abortions: “I provide abortions because doing so allows me to reach out to women and show them kindness at a time when they are upset, frightened, and having one of the worst days of their lives.” I see a note of compassion here, but I see all the more clearly that even from the viewpoint of the abortionist, the patient is in a moment of crisis. That patient might be your daughter, or my daughter. She is confused, scared, and vulnerable. She may not realize it, but she needs you. You’ll want to know what she’s thinking and feeling. You need to know.
This ought to be true whether you believe, like me, that abortion is a great evil, or whether you think it is a good thing. I think you’ll agree that it’s true because you love your daughter. Parental Notification: It’s the right thing to do.
From front lines